Children are often taught not to keep secrets from their parents, but the roles were reversed when a young girl confided in her stepmom instead.

In a viral Reddit post gathering more than 9,300 upvotes and shared by u/nightowlbibliophile, the stepmother wrote: “She made me promise not to tell her dad, which I agreed to.”

The 11-year-old’s secret was that she had started her period while her mom was on vacation and she was staying at her dad and stepmom’s house. According to the CDC and the National Health and Nutrition Examination Survey, the average age at menarche (the first menstrual period) in the United States is 12 years old.

The 29-year-old woman said: “[She] was in a lot of pain, and was using toilet paper as a makeshift pad. Even with my assurances that starting your period is nothing to be embarrassed about, she still didn’t want me to tell her dad.”

“I ran to the store to get her some different pad options, a heating pad, and some chocolate. As promised, I didn’t tell her dad. I just said I was running to the store to grab some snacks for myself and his daughter,” the poster wrote.

“His daughter continued to have bad cramps even with the heating pad, so I gave her two Midol tablets. About 90 minutes later she was feeling a lot better. I gave her two additional Midol tablets when she woke up the next morning with cramps.”

According to the Midol website, the medication is recommended for adults and children aged 12 years or older.

When the girl’s mom returned from vacation, she was immediately informed about the situation, although her reaction to the medication was not mentioned.

However, the Reddit user’s partner was less understanding when he was made aware of the situation by his ex.

“He’s furious with me for not telling him about what he called a ‘medical condition’ and for giving his daughter [over-the-counter] medications without his approval,” the poster said.

“I told him I wanted his daughter to be able to trust me so she will be comfortable coming to me in the future with things that she might be embarrassed to tell her dad about.

“I also told him that if there was something going on that required medical attention, I absolutely would have told him, but this was just her starting her period. He’s still p*****, mainly about me giving her the Midol.”

Newsweek reached out to u/nightowlbibliophile for comment. We could not verify the details of the case.

Expert Opinion

Newsweek discussed the April 22 post with Seth Eisenberg, a licensed PAIRS Trainer and president/CEO at PAIRS Foundation. It is a nonprofit organization dedicated to promoting healthy relationships through education, research, and training.

Eisenberg said: “When a child trusts a stepparent enough to share something deeply personal, like starting their first period, that trust is precious—and fragile.

“Honoring their privacy in nonemergency situations can be a powerful gift,” Eisenberg added. “Offering simple comfort, like a heating pad or Midol, isn’t just about easing pain; it’s about saying, ‘You’re safe. You’re cared for.’ In blended families, love often begins with small moments of kindness and respect.”

Reddit Reacts

As of now, the post has garnered more than 3,700 comments.

One comment, with 5,600 likes, said: “His ridiculous reaction, as well as calling a period a ‘medical condition’ is probably why his daughter doesn’t want to tell him things. She can already sense he’s not emotionally safe, and she’ll only close off from him more if he keeps this behavior up.”

Another user added: “As the Dad who handled my daughter beginning her period without help from her mother (my ex at the time) or my gf [girlfriend] who did not live with us, I would be thankful that my daughter felt comfortable with you and you quietly helped her. Your bf [boyfriend] is being a j*** at best.”

A third commenter said: “I understand a tiny bit about the Midol, however, you did what was best for his daughter in the moment. She wasn’t ready to talk about this with a man and you were there and being kind. It’s a good thing.”

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