A woman who had been dropped from her friendship group was shocked to receive a wedding invitation from one of the friends who failed to defend her.

The woman, aka user Thr0wwitallaway, turned to Reddit this week for views on her dilemma on what to do next, explaining that she had once been part of a close-knit group of seven women for years.

‘Drunk and abusive’

The turning point came when the group’s unofficial leader, “Elle,” reacted badly to the way she handled invitations to her “drunken, abusive” boyfriend’s parties, according to the original poster (OP).

She had opted not to invite anyone from the group, avoiding any potential conflict over Elle’s boyfriend, whose past behavior had made her uncomfortable.

When Elle realized this, she retaliated, removing her from group chats and cutting her off from all future events.

The rest of the group accepted Elle’s decision without question. One friend, Kat, maintained some level of contact but avoided including her in birthday celebrations, saying she didn’t want to create discomfort within the group.

Feeling abandoned, she eventually blocked Kat and moved on.

“Well, today I received an invite for me and my boyfriend to Kat’s wedding this summer,” the OP told Redditors.

“I heard from a mutual friend that she wants me as a bridesmaid. But how is THAT not going to be ‘too awkward’ for her? The whole group is going to be there for all of it.

“I don’t even understand why she invited me.”

‘Ask yourself one question’

Reddit reactions to her situation have been divided.

One person encouraged the OP to think about what she truly wanted, saying, “I think you just need to ask yourself one question. Do you want to reconnect with Kat?

“If no, just RSVP ‘No’ and never think of any of them again. If yes, unblock and see how it goes.”

Another person suggested declining the invite, writing, “Fractured friend groups can be so emotionally challenging—been there, so I do get it.

“But I’ve learned that one can rarely go back to the way it was, and it’s been better to just move on and create new, more real friendships.”

The situation reflects a common struggle when friendships fade, or end abruptly.

Forced Reconnections

According to The Synergy Company, relationships change for various reasons, and maintaining a connection doesn’t always require physical presence or continued interaction.

The company suggests that genuine support can come in the form of kind gestures from a distance, rather than forced reconnections.

Communication, or the lack of it, played a large role in how this friendship unraveled. Kat never defended her, never apologized, and never addressed the issue directly, the OP noted.

As Alexandria Audiology opines, effective communication is essential for maintaining strong relationships. Without open discussions and mutual understanding, misunderstandings can turn into irreparable divides.

‘Stonewalled’

The OP revealed in a reply to a user that she did ask to discuss the situation with Elle in person, rather than via texts, but was “stonewalled.”

The OP continued: “I called multiple girls in the group and explained my case. The response was lukewarm and then silence.

“I did stand up for myself.”

Newsweek has contacted Thr0wwitallaway for comment via Reddit.

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